Things to Avoid:

• “Why” Questions
• Stories about yourself
• Explanations
• “Yes” or ”No” Questions
• Advice

Things to Practice:

• Open-ended Questions
• Reflective Listening
  (“So it sounds like…”, “I hear you saying that…”)
• Locating emotions
  (“How did you feel when…”)
• Locating beliefs
  (“What belief did this stem from…?”)
• Locating choices
  (“What choice did you make…?)

Listening to Jesus together:

• How does His story impact this situation?
• What is your true identity in Christ?
• What would your life in the kingdom of God look like if you trusted Him here?
• How have you been finding relief?
• How is Jesus inviting you into relationship?